4 Foolproof Ways To Handle Your Fear Of Confrontations

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When You Just Can’t Handle Confrontations

 

Do you also get these kind of chills sometimes? Your pulse starts to race and your palms get sweaty?
That’s simply what I go through every time I have to confront someone with something unpleasent. Especially when it’s someone I can’t quite figur out.
How is he/she going to react? What will he/she say? Will they demolate something? What will our relationship be like after The Confrontation?

I think it’s quite obvious that I really despise these kind of situations. But the thing is there are times when it’s just unavoidable. And, let’s be honest, it’s defnitly more then possible that everthing will turn out just fine one way or another.

Despite knowing this and the fact that I’m 26 years old and should have propably learned how to handle situations like that by now, I still get freaked out like holy shit.
The fact that I made it to this point in my live is amazing. Ok, now I’m exaggerating. But I do struggle with this kind of stuff.
So what do I do to fight the urge to crawl under my bedding, desperatly wishing for a miracle, so that I don’t have to face the inevitability? Well, right now I’m writing this blogpost to calm my nerves. Ok, jokes aside, here are my tips to calm yourself down before a confrontation.

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1. Write It Down

Get a pen and paper and write it down. Like literally everything. From the issue itself, over all the reasons why you can’t carry on like it is, to the consequences you draw from that. This little exercise helps you to focus and stops your thoughts from spinning all around in your head. Plus you have all your arguments at the ready.

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2. Call A Friend

It’s always a great idea to get an outside opinion. Depending on who you prefere call a friend or a family member and explain them the situation. They will definetly have some kind of advice for you and hearing a friendly voice is always awesome and calming.

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3. Get Outside

Lace up your shoes, throw on a jacket and get outside. Take a walk around your nearby forest/ park/ beach, take a deep breath and let all your worries fly away. Sometimes lifting yourself out of a situation like that helps a lot. Also grant yourself a nice cup of coffee or a big bowl of the best icecream, you deserve it.

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4. Love Yourself

You are awesome, and fierce and strong. And you deserve to be happy every single day. Sometimes we just have to remind ourselves of these facts. It’s our life and we shouldn’t let fear controll it. So write down everything that makes you such a formidable person or just say them out loud. You go, girl! (find out why I chose to be happy instead of perfect)

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I hope that some of these tips will help you in your situation. I know myself that it’s not going to get easier from one moment to another but I’m sure as hell ready to keep on trying. And I’m positive that at some point everything will get easier.

I love to hear your tips and tricks on this subject. Please leave a comment below.

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